Let it go, let it goooooo!!!!
So I’m about 5 months into having 2 boys.... and wow! Aside from the obvious joy of becoming a mum again and learning how to deal with all the things that I’ve forgotten over the last 3 and a half years (that would be; everything), one of the biggest things I’ve struggled to deal with is all the mess and lack of time to deal with said mess.
How can the addition of one more teeny tiny human bring with it so much crap? Like soooo much more crap than with my first?! It’s not just that I’ve had to dig out all the baby things that were ever so neatly stored in boxes and vacuum sealed bags and shoved into the deepest darkest depths of the cupboard, but my preschooler also feels the need to dig out all his toys that I’ve stored in the deepest darkest depths of beyond. The combination of all of this within a small 2 bedroom flat compounded with life’s general daily mess is almost more than I can bare but..... bottom line? Just do it.
Suck it up and just deal with it. My mantra of late has been a poem that
I read once by Rose Milligan that has really stayed with me;
Dust if you must, but wouldn't it be better
To paint a picture, or write a letter,
Bake a cake, or plant a seed;
Ponder the difference between want and need?
Dust if you must, but there's not much time,
With rivers to swim, and mountains to climb;
Music to hear, and books to read;
Friends to cherish, and life to lead.
Dust if you must, but the world's out there
With the sun in your eyes and the wind in your hair;
A flutter of snow, a shower of rain,
This day will not come around again.
Dust if you must, but bear in mind,
Old age will come and it's not kind.
And when you go (and go you must)
You, yourself, will make more dust.
It’s good, right? Basically just show this to your other half and it’s a free pass to not do the vacuuming.
In all seriousness, though it can be stressful living in a mess.
So my top tips for dealing with mess?
1. As Elsa would say "Let it go! Let it goooooo!" (You're singing it in your head right now aren't you?). Wise words from someone so animated.
2. Pick 3 things that are really important to you. For me this was keeping up with the laundry, showering and making sure there was food in the house and my child was fed (is that 4 things?). If you can get 2 of the 3 things done in a day you can feel accomplished (note, feeding children should probably be at least one of the 2 things) anything else is just a bonus.
3. Pick a room (or 2 if you can manage it) that is your clean space. Clean/ tidy this space first and always make sure it’s tidy at the end of a day. It will help to keep from feeling overwhelmed if you have a tidy space to retreat to after a hectic day. For me it’s the lounge and the kitchen. A quick whirlwind pack up of toys, pucker up the couch cushions (and often just throwing things in another room counts as tidying), wiping surfaces in the kitchen and chucking everything in the dishwasher and your job is done.
4. Get a dishwasher
5. Shower with your baby/child. It’s about the only way you’ll get one. You’ll be surprised how much they’ll enjoy it! Although it does raise questions such as “mummy, where your winky went?” (That’s another blog post entirely). My 3yo plays with his cars on the floor of the shower, my baby is soothed by the water pressure and I get clean. Tick. Tick. Tick.
6. Shop online. The first order might take a while but you can save your lists so they are there for next time. Set this up early while bub is still small, that way, by the time you hit the 4-month sleep regression (baby's and yours) you can get your groceries at the hit of a button. Now you have more time to deal with the rest of the house!
And you know what? If it’s still all too much just say F it, pour yourself a glass of wine and relax because let’s face it, if your kids are alive and fed at the end of the day that’s a win in my book.
Now, I’m off to do the dishes.... just kidding, I just poured myself a glass of wine!
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